So I really like this comedian I’ve been watching his stuff for quite some time and I listen to their podcast every single week. So when I found out that they were having a show in my town, I was super excited, and my sister bought me tickets for my birthday. So I don’t really have too many friends where I live right now and this comedian is gay and has a lot of gay humor and some of my family members who would go with me are not too big of fans of the LGBT community. Also who likes listening to sex jokes with their family?

anyways, today is the day of the show and I’ve had three family members call me and be like why are you going to this alone? It’s strange and I think my family thinks I’m like a super loner because I’m deciding to go to this alone and they say that comedy shows are like social events, but I think that it’s not that weird to go to stuff like this alone what are your thoughts? Do you think it’s weird to go to comedy shows alone or live shows alone or concerts alone?

I think my family is treating this like a wake up call to my mental health because I’m deciding to go to this alone but also I’m not exactly deciding to go alone. I just don’t really have any friends who would go with me to this and my family members. I don’t think they enjoy this humor as much as I do.

It’s not strange at all. I feel like people go to events or other gatherings alone all the time. Now me personally, I don’t go to events by myself because I have social anxiety and it wouldn’t be very fun in my opinion. I can’t even go to the movies alone lol. But anyway, don’t worry what anyone else says. You can go somewhere by yourself whenever you want to. I know it sucks not really having anyone you can go with, but it’s something you want to do and it will be fun for you.

53 minutes ago, K.C. said:

It’s not strange at all. I feel like people go to events or other gatherings alone all the time. Now me personally, I don’t go to events by myself because I have social anxiety and it wouldn’t be very fun in my opinion. I can’t even go to the movies alone lol. But anyway, don’t worry what anyone else says. You can go somewhere by yourself whenever you want to. I know it sucks not really having anyone you can go with, but it’s something you want to do and it will be fun for you.

In a weird way whenever I go to things like this, it’s almost like I turn my brain off to like opinions of other people like I’m literally doing it just for me if that makes sense. like I also have social anxiety, but at shows like this. No one‘s really gonna be talking anyway so I kind of just sit down and enjoy the show and leave.

35 minutes ago, mary said:

In a weird way whenever I go to things like this, it’s almost like I turn my brain off to like opinions of other people like I’m literally doing it just for me if that makes sense. like I also have social anxiety, but at shows like this. No one‘s really gonna be talking anyway so I kind of just sit down and enjoy the show and leave.

That’s good. I should do that too because in reality, no one really cares or pays attention that someone is by themselves. I don’t think anything of it when I see someone alone in places like that. If someone has a problem with it, who cares?

Nah, I go alone to multiple comedy shows every year at the Fringe festival in August. I like to go with friends too, but going alone is great for meeting people. I befriended the comedian who'd been performing one time. I would never have had the urge to do that in company. Also, I really dislike people talking to me while I'm trying to enjoy a show.

The funny thing about people is we're usually too self-conscious about people judging us to worry about judging other people.

Update: I went and it was so much fun! Comedy is so fun to go to alone!!

2 hours ago, mary said:

Update: I went and it was so much fun! Comedy is so fun to go to alone!!

So pleased you had a great time! If you wanna do stuff and can't find anyone to go with, just do it!!

9 hours ago, K.C. said:

Now me personally, I don’t go to events by myself because I have social anxiety and it wouldn’t be very fun in my opinion. I can’t even go to the movies alone lol.

I'm exactly the same, I can travel by myself, but eating out, going to events etc by myself, I dunno why, I just feel so awkward. I wish I could do it! I have friends that go on holidays by themselves and just make friends while they're out there, I envy them so much 😂

6 hours ago, ParadiseLost said:

I have friends that go on holidays by themselves and just make friends while they're out there, I envy them so much 😂

Right?? It’s like how are you able to do that so easily? I wish that could be me lol

This whole thread made me smile — honestly love how supportive everyone is about just doing the thing even if it means showing up solo.

@navy — Glad you went and had fun! Sometimes doing stuff alone is the best way to actually enjoy it without worrying about anyone else’s vibe or schedule.

@K.C. — You nailed it with that “you’re gonna be laughing anyway” point. If anything, comedy shows are probably one of the easiest solo outings — the whole room is laughing with you. It’s such a communal experience by default.

@ParadiseLost — Same. I used to think going to movies or restaurants alone would feel awkward, but now I genuinely enjoy it. Feels kind of powerful not needing company to have a good time.

@papercutely — Love that you go to festivals and travel alone sometimes too. That’s inspiring. There’s something freeing about doing what you want without waiting on anyone else’s plans.

Big props to everyone in here making solo adventures feel totally normal — it shouldn’t be weird to enjoy your own company.

13 hours ago, mary said:

Update: I went and it was so much fun! Comedy is so fun to go to alone!!

Glad you had a good time! I'm curious, can you tell us who the comedian is? I wanna Google. I love stand up comedy.

9 hours ago, perpetually said:

Glad you had a good time! I'm curious, can you tell us who the comedian is? I wanna Google. I love stand up comedy.

Dylan Carlino

I'm glad you went and had a good time!

I've learned to really not find it awkward at all to do things alone. Of course it's great to go with friends or family or loved ones, but sometimes it's an entirely different kind of good to experience things just for yourself. I travel, go to concerts/shows/sports events/etc, dine out, do outdoorsy things on my own somewhat frequently.

I just have a "I'd love for you to do this thing with me, but if you aren't here I'm still doing it" mindset with most things.