Please use this forum to confess whatever personality problems you know you have, and you want to improve.

My problem is that I can be the following:
- Very rude.
- Judgmental.
- Insensitive.
- Condescending.

The above traits are gross... yet I know I sometimes show them.

I aim to improve this.

What about you? What are you trying to improve?

I can be overly logical and focus too hard on problem solving rather than addressing emotional reality. To me, if you have a problem or are upset, then let's work out how to fix it. But some people want to focus on the emotion without jumping to a solution automatically. Which I appreciate, and am trying to be better at being more empathetic in that sense.

I can have a temper. It was worse when I was a teenager so I’ve gotten much better in my later adult years, but it still comes out sometimes lol. I hide my emotions really well though so people rarely see any of the “bad” personality traits and I keep thoughts to myself. That’s probably not a good thing in itself. I can be judgmental too but I feel like everyone is in some way.

On 11/9/2025 at 11:07 AM, ParadiseLost said:

I can be overly logical and focus too hard on problem solving rather than addressing emotional reality. To me, if you have a problem or are upset, then let's work out how to fix it. But some people want to focus on the emotion without jumping to a solution automatically. Which I appreciate, and am trying to be better at being more empathetic in that sense.

Seems like a backhanded compliment in a way... lol. "I'm too logical" (paraphrased quote) What is something you do that is actually bad? Like... not so much something that can be perceived as a good thing as what you described.

On 11/9/2025 at 12:25 PM, K.C. said:

I can have a temper. It was worse when I was a teenager so I’ve gotten much better in my later adult years, but it still comes out sometimes lol. I hide my emotions really well though so people rarely see any of the “bad” personality traits and I keep thoughts to myself. That’s probably not a good thing in itself. I can be judgmental too but I feel like everyone is in some way.

A lot of sadness in life can come from not living and being your true self - but at the same time, so can a lot of chaos from being your true self, depending on the person.

2 hours ago, Onision said:

Seems like a backhanded compliment in a way... lol. "I'm too logical" (paraphrased quote) What is something you do that is actually bad? Like... not so much something that can be perceived as a good thing as what you described.

Lol, fair point. A lot of frustration points from people in my life seems to stem from this attitude though. I can be a bit of an emotional brick wall sometimes if I want to be. And often it's much easier to be, so I kind of "switch it off" - but emotion is important to feel and work through. I'm trying to be better at that.

On 11/9/2025 at 1:07 PM, ParadiseLost said:

I can be overly logical and focus too hard on problem solving rather than addressing emotional reality. To me, if you have a problem or are upset, then let's work out how to fix it. But some people want to focus on the emotion without jumping to a solution automatically. Which I appreciate, and am trying to be better at being more empathetic in that sense.

Haha I’m the same way, I’m a fixer for sure. What helped me is asking before a conversation where someone is like venting, I ask “do you wanna vent or do you want advice”. And that’s helped a lot.

I wanna fix my people pleasing. I people please to a fault and then I **** myself over. Also I’d like to fix my awkwardness

On 11/9/2025 at 6:44 PM, Onision said:

Please use this forum to confess whatever personality problems you know you have, and you want to improve.

My problem is that I can be the following:
- Very rude.
- Judgmental.
- Insensitive.
- Condescending.

The above traits are gross... yet I know I sometimes show them.

I aim to improve this.

What about you? What are you trying to improve?

It might be necessary to have such traits though in certain situations. Like imagine you were in a room with a ***** abusing narcissist who thinks he's a saint and is trying to continue to do his abuses.

In that specific situation I kinda think you not having those traits in you would be bad. 🤔

7 hours ago, mary said:

Also I’d like to fix my awkwardness

Me tooo 😅

awkward/insensitive, I don't mean to be but also I just don't understand people sometimes and I'm not smart enough to pretend to. 0-100 temper, I think I'm pretty nice but if I've had enough of something/someone the switch flips pretty fast. Annnd I'm pretty much incapable of making it through 'serious/romantic' moments without ruining them, like I HAVE to make a joke, a funny face, anything, it's like a knee jerk reaction . Trying to improve the insensitive part cause I accidently laughed in someone's face after they told me something really effed up, 😅

I'm sensitive, I try to be the peace maker... I'm stubborn 😂 more stubborn than a mule

13 minutes ago, Sheila89 said:

I'm sensitive, I try to be the peace maker... I'm stubborn 😂 more stubborn than a mule

Like, even if you know someone is right, you still won't do the right thing and admit it?

1 hour ago, Rylent said:

awkward/insensitive

Isn't that a good chunk of being autistic?

On 11/10/2025 at 11:00 PM, Red Robert said:

Like imagine you were in a room with a ***** abusing narcissist who thinks he's a saint and is trying to continue to do his abuses.

You seem a little hyper-focused on your anger toward someone, or a group of people, you believe to be narcissists. Seems like a problem of it's own - a weight you are choosing to carry.

58 minutes ago, Onision said:

Isn't that a good chunk of being autistic?

Yep. From what I’ve been told, I have Borderline Asperger’s and I’ve always had a difficult time socializing and making friends. I feel like through my adult years, I’ve gotten more socially awkward.

On 11/12/2025 at 3:38 PM, K.C. said:

I’ve always had a difficult time socializing and making friends. I feel like through my adult years, I’ve gotten more socially awkward.

And yet I consider you a friend. Weird.

44 minutes ago, Onision said:

And yet I consider you a friend. Weird.

Thanks 😊 I appreciate you.

On 11/12/2025 at 10:27 PM, Onision said:

Like, even if you know someone is right, you still won't do the right thing and admit it?

Isn't that a good chunk of being autistic?

You seem a little hyper-focused on your anger toward someone, or a group of people, you believe to be narcissists. Seems like a problem of it's own - a weight you are choosing to carry.

Fair enough, maybe I am and maybe it sounds like I'm going on, but what if you're unfairly beating yourself up here Greg?

Sorry, wish there was an edit feature of these comments, I mean 'what if you're unfairly beating yourself up here' James?

2 hours ago, Red Robert said:

Fair enough, maybe I am and maybe it sounds like I'm going on, but what if you're unfairly beating yourself up here Greg?

Sorry, wish there was an edit feature of these comments, I mean 'what if you're unfairly beating yourself up here' James?

I overthink too much

And cry when in really anger i also

Lash out at the wrong ppl

20 hours ago, Hannah Newera said:

I overthink too much

And cry when in really anger i also

Lash out at the wrong ppl

Deep breathing and space apart can resolve much.

True